Tuesday, January 11, 2005

transition time

All three of the kids have been having dust-ups lately, being over-sensitive, over-reacting, generally freaking out. Nothing major, just odd little blips of out-of-control behavior. I started to think they're all coming down with something, which is still entirely possible -- they've been back at school long enough to have caught and incubated something nasty, so if they wake up sick, no one will be surprised.

But I don't think that's it. I was talking to DS1's teacher today -- he got very upset with her, and she was disturbed that he couldn't articulate what she had done to make him upset -- and it finally dawned on me: Gramma's here.

Mom comes every year, and we all love her very much. But when she's here, the dynamic of the family changes in subtle, and some not-so-subtle, ways. It will take a few more days before we settle into a routine and feel comfy at home again. It's just the way it is.

I talked a little with DS1 about this on the way home. We are just out of sorts, and we don't really know what to do to get back into them. Over time we will settle again, but until then, we're all a little more prickly. How hard it is for them to feel that "home" is not quite as "homey" as it ought to be. I know things will be fine in relatively short order. It won't be the same as when Mom is not here, of course, but it will stop being "home - weird" and become "home - normal, for now."

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